How do you say I Love You?  Some people say it with words.  Some people say it with cards and flowers.  Still others say it with actions.

Just as we all have our own way to say I love you, we all have our own way of feeling loved.  What should you do if your spouse doesn't show you love the way you need them to?  An example is a wife that needs to hear her husband say he loves her.  She needs to hear him tell her the reasons for his love.  She needs to be told that he thinks she is beautiful.  She feels loved through words.

Now, the husband loves her very much, but he doesn't know how to express it in words.  He shows that he loves her by working hard to support their family.  The more he works, the more neglected and unloved she feels.  He wants them to have a good life and have the things they desire.  This is his love.

In order to have a successful marriage, you need to show love to your partner in the way in which they feel loved.  This is sometimes difficult.  You might need to step out of your comfort zone.  In the case of this husband, he would need to learn a new set of skills; emotional awareness and expression.  I know that it is scary, but if you want your spouse to feel your love you need to first find out what says "I love you" to them.

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