Good Morning!

Yes, such a circumstance can take you back for a moment.
And then you nearly repremand yourself because you believe you have to "let go" now and move on, because you do believe your husband -and you should be able to do so.
I understand. I have been there myself.
Sweetie, the first thing is to take a deep breathe.
Secondly, ask your self, "did I allow myself time to be upset, grieve, be hurt over the action of being wronged?"
Next, do you understand what forgiveness is and is not?
Deep inside, if you hesitate to forgive, it may be because of your own resistance as a result of internally resenting you feel "you have to."
This doesn't make you a bad person; but you think it does, so your pushing yourself before your ready to move into this step.
You haven't "owned" your hurt yet, so that you can "let it go."
Forgiveness is letting go of your anger and pain, so you can live fully in the present and feel good now.
Forgiveness is not saying that the wrong was not wrong and it never happened, so pretend otherwise.
Boundaries will need to be re-established.
New understandings in your relationship and what are underlying emotions will need to be worked through, so that the "two" of you may start anew, once you have reached a point of true forgiveness and clarity.
He will have to attend his emotions separately also.
When you are ready to move forward, and even when you would like to consider the steps in transforming your relationship to another level, feel free to come and talk again.
It takes great courage to step forward and you have done well!
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Peace & Blessings,
Dr. Josephine'(Jodi) Sheppard